On the frustrating days of mothering and schooling I sometimes think “Where did I go wrong?!?” “Is anyone LISTENING to me?!?!” Can you relate? (For your sake, I hope not, but chances are good you can.)
I was skimming an excellent article on developing work ethic in your children yesterday and felt the PANG of conviction. Because conviction is sometimes painful, instead of embracing it, I moved on (i.e. RAN!). However, when you are asking the Lord to work in your life, He will, even if you run away from His attempts.
Source of Frustration
So this morning, running LATE, I’m at-the-end-of-my-rope frustrated that the (homeschooled) kids are messing around, totally off task, doing nothing that resembles their morning routines or schoolwork. They are:
- Off task
- Not showing any initiative or responsibility
- Doing the least amount of work to get by and haven’t really “finished” any tasks
The Old Adage is True
That article and a few words from it came rushing like a tidal wave into my head. But this time, I could not escape. I had to surrender and ask the haunting question.
“Could their behavior that frustrates me so much, actually be MYfault?!?!? Are they learning it by watching ME?”
The question was like an assault because I knew the answer was yes. The things I’m so frustrated with in my kids are definite weakness and shortcomings of mine.
- I frequently get the dishwasher full but leave the “big stuff” to soak, not completely finishing the job.
- I presently have at least 4 baskets of clean laundry waiting in my room waiting to be folded or put away.
- Which door in the house MUST be closed when company comes? (MINE!)
“Hypocrite! Hypocrite!” I hear in my head. Can anyone elserelate here?!?!
Is It Too Late For Me to Grow Up?!?!
I have to honestly say that rather than feeling the strength to overcome rise up within me, I wanted to go back to bed! After telling myself that was another escape and not a solution, I decided that I need some rules and accountability for myself. I also needed to assess how I arrived at this place. The good news, and the real truth, is that I have already come quite a long way. The equal reality is that in order to live up to my own expectations, I have a long way to go. Where to begin?
- Apologize to the kids… again. Admit my hypocritical expectations and tell them I want MORE for them…
- Identify my worst offenders and what steps I can take to address them.
- Determine why I’m not doing what I should- Am I overcommitted? Overly tired? Wasting my time?
- Increase my accountability. I know myself. If I think it’s a rule that only I am aware of… well, it won’t last long!
I am going to start with: Dinner time, Dishes- through pots/pans, and finishing laundry baskets as they come up the stairs.
Can YOU relate to growing frustrated with seeing yourweaknesses displayed in your kids? Where will you get started?
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